Never Assume

Everyday we are faced with challenges especially in relationship. To maintain a relationship does not need us to work hard. I have read somewhere that if we need to work really hard to maintain our relationship with our partner, it will definitely make us very tired and undesirable.

A true relationship will flow throughout time just like a river. Over time,some of the river banks will change slowly according to the river current. Similar to our relationship, we can't force to change the flow of our relationship overnight. Something forceful can break any soft string that we have with our partner.

If we have a good partner (in whatever sense), we have to be grateful. To find someone that can take care of our hearts and appreciate our existence seem normal and desired by anyone but in reality, that person does not exist. The person we fall in love with may change over time. The love that we have for this person may fade slowly if this person keeps "hurting" us, not physically but mentally too. Once in a while, there will be "storm" in our home. So, be prepared when the storm arrives. We will never know when it will be coming. Preparation is key. We should not lose sight of what we want in a relationship. We should not be blinded with the problems we have at hand. We must at all times be focus on the holistic view of our relationship.

As human being, we will try our level best to save our relationship. But it will never work if we are the one that is interested in keeping the relationship. If the other party is uncaring, the efforts to save it seems worthless. Our feeling may change from love to hatred once our efforts prove to be futile.

When do we know that our relationship is not worth keeping ? NEVER ASSUME ! Do not assume that our partner does not love us if he stays at home, watch tv, reading newspaper. He lets us check his handphone any point in time. He seems oblivious that this world is full of beautiful ladies. For guys, faithful partners will shower you with her love until the day you break her heart.

And never assume that if he/she comes home late, like to play with his/her handphone, he/she is unfaithful. Maybe this is the only way our partner is releasing his/her tension. "Yeah right...as if there is no other way of releasing tension..." emmmm....everyone has his opinion...

Nevertheless, If there is an episode in our life that our partner commits something that hurts us, never assume that this is the end of the world. Everybody makes mistake regardless big or small. In life, one of the ways for us to learn is to learn from big mistakes. We need to stand up after a big fall. Learn to take the baby steps again in trusting our partner. It is not easy but if we like to stay with our partner, then this is the only way to do. And our partner must give us the assurance that the big mistake will never happen again.